“Thanks again, man.” He smiled, trying to convey the depths of his appreciation for Eddie and his stupid wonderful kindess, before his face fell upon seeing colour blooming in Eddie’s face again. “You feeling ok? You’ve been a little flushed this morning.” He leaned in close and lay a hand gently on Eddie’s forehead, ignoring the whispers from Hen and Chim behind him.
“Yep!” Eddie jolted backwards, hand shooting up to latch around Buck’s wrist and pull him away from his face. “Perfect, never better.”
~~~~~
aka 5 times Buck was oblivious, one time Eddie clued him in
Looking through your Ao3 bookmarks and seeing that little “This has been deleted, sorry!” is like finding a gravestone, but the writing’s too worn down to read what it was standing for anymore.
What were you, Bookmark #336… What stories did you tell? Which words were it that once left a mark on my soul?
*touches my laptop screen like it’s text from an ancient ruin*
you ever listen to a playlist and all of the sudden a song that has incredible blorbo energy comes on you’re you’re just like this
[image Description: a simply drawn person is wearing headphones and looking bored. Then their eyes dilate in amazement and they think “blorbo”. End ID]
As someone who took etiquette lessons, politeness is an incredibly effective tool for disarming bigots. You can either force them to reconsider their words/actions by directly and calmly confronting their behavior (by using the rules of society in your favor), or you can dip entirely while they appear to be in the wrong.
Both options are great.
Because the thing is, when bigots pick fights, they are 100% counting on you to get louder than them. Or meaner. They want you to react emotionally and provide fodder for their ‘You’re Too Emotionally Immature To Understand’ cannon.
What they aren’t expecting you to do is say one of the following phrases in a polite, concerned tone:
Are you okay?
That’s not the kind of language I was raised to use with others.
Do you need a moment to think on why that wasn’t acceptable?
This is no way to engage in intelligent conversation. Please try that again in a kinder tone if you’d like this to continue. (I really like this one because it lets you turn their public-shame rhetoric around)
For those of you who’d are spiteful and/or dealing with Fundamentalists/Evangelicals/generally shitty Christians:
What’s happening in your life to cause you this much anger? I can’t imagine hurting so badly that I need to hurt other people.
Who taught you it was acceptable to treat other people this way? Certainly not the Jesus I remember.
Whatever happened to 'judge not lest ye be judged’?
If I talked like that in front of my parents or grandparents I would be ashamed.
I think there’s something you need to pray on before we try and have this conversation.
And my all time favorite:
“It sounds to me like there are some seriously dark and angry forces at work in your heart.”
(Nothing stops a Christian bigot in their tracks faster than implying the Devil is causing their bigotry. But you MUST be calm, polite, and gentle with your tone and wording. It is absolutely fair to twist the rules and play them at their own game, but you gotta play hard.)
TLDR: It’s much faster to use etiquette, politeness, and rhetoric reversal when eviscerating idiots online and in person, because they aren’t expecting you to weaponize their behaviors back in their direction. Don’t get angry, get spitefully polite! :)
My favourite one is “Do you think that this is a normal/acceptable thing to say/do?”
god i cant take it with sense8 theyre just like. heres an establishing shot that cost thousands of dollars. heres a bunch of people dancing and having the most lit time of their life. heres the coolest fight sequence you’ve ever seen. heres a pansexual orgy. heres a transgender hacktivist. here are villains that are closeminded and terrifying and use their positions of power to threaten anyone who’s different from them, in a thousand big and small ways. heres those villains getting their asses kicked by the power of martial arts and friendship. heres a love triangle finally getting resolved with polyamory. heres a guy weeping and yelling because hes stuck in traffic. like they just give you EVERYTHING.
Honestly, in my work as a therapist, I’m seeing this A Lot, and tbh I still don’t have a satisfactory approach to it. A heavy dose of Existentialist “create your own Purpose” tempered with “when the plane’s going down, put your own oxygen mask on first”, but… yeah, there is no ethical way to work on individual emotional distress without acknowledging the systemic socioeconomic, geopolitical fuckery going on at the moment, and the sheer grief that comes with it.
I’m a guidance counselor/psychologist for teenagers and it’s getting really hard to motivate young people to work for a future they don’t believe in.
They look at ther future and see global warming, wwIII, unemployement, political unstability, poison in everything they eat, the earth and animals dying all around them.
I saw this video where someone was asking french teens in the 50s how they imagine the future would be. The war hadn’t been over for long and yet it was all positive with like peace and flying cars and such. Then they went and ask the same questions to nowadays teens and hell that was depressing. Some still had hope, but it was just that “well I hope I’ll have a nice house and maybe some kid” but there was such a hesitancy to it, like they didn’t dare to hope too much.
People mock Greta Thunberg but what they don’t get is that when she said “you stole my dreams”, it was the truth.
Young people don’t get to dream like they used to. They don’t dream anymore, they grief all that won’t be anymore and that’s just so fucking sad.
The fact that both the tweet and these reblogs are pre-pandemic makes this post even worse
If sexual activity between same-gender people became illegal, the police would be the ones enforcing those laws.
That’s why police are not welcome at Pride. Pride is for unconditional supporters, not for those who would become enemies as soon as they’re ordered to.
I feel it’s important to amend this with “if sexual activity between same-gender people became illegal AGAIN, the police would be the ones enforcing those laws AGAIN.”
They did it before and they’ll do it again. Gay sex was only made legal in Texas in 2003. I was at a sleepover at my best friend’s house when it happened. We could hear the celebrations from the bar district down the block. We were 14 and both knew we were queer.
So yes, they’re not welcome at pride because they’ll turn on us in an instant. But also because cops who have been cops for a while full-onwere against us only NINETEEN years ago.
And yes I know that’s just in Texas and other states have different histories but I’m not even that old and I remember when being gay was illegal. When any relationship I dreamed of having was illegal. And THAT is my bigger reason that cops aren’t welcome at pride. Yes they will turn on us, but they already were against us and not-so-secretly still are.
Cops used to raid gay bars round up drag queens and butch lesbians and gay men dressed too femininely, beat them and s*xually assault them in the jails.
And there was no legal recourse. Because it was illegal to be gay. It was illegal to wear clothes that didn’t correspond with your biological sex. Police were well within their rights to arrest them and once they got them behind closed doors they could do whatever they wanted. Who were they going to believe? The heroic police or the weird queer criminals?
